We were in the car on the way to preschool and Javan was saying that maybe his name should be spelled JavIn. I explained to him that that is not how his name is spelled... and he replied...
"but Aislinn and Austin told me that it should be spelled Javin because an A doesn't make the "i" sound..."
My blood boiled for a moment there... of course, every parent takes a lot of time and thought to decide the name of their child, but that wasn't the only thing that annoyed me about that statement. I get the feeling that whenever Aislinn and Austin are together, they gang up on Javan a lot and Javan looks up to them so much he doesn't even notice... protective mommy chimes in...
"Well, Aislinn's name isn't spelled the way it sounds either... AIS should sound like "AIS" but instead they pronounce it "ASH". The next time she says anything about your name, you tell her THAT!"
Javan: "OK, mom, i will tell her that. I will ask daddy to take me to see Aislinn today and I will tell her that."
Then, he thinks about it for a minute... and here it comes...
"Mom, I don't think you told me to do the right thing. If i tell Aislinn that, that might make her sad. That would be teasing and we shouldn't tease anyone."
Wow. Filled with feelings of guilt, embarrassment, remorse, and PRIDE in my little guy's sense of morals.
"Your right Javan, even mommy's sometimes make bad decisions. Telling you to say that wasn't the right thing and when we make a bad decision, we need to say we are sorry and make it right. I'm sorry, Javan. What SHOULD we say if someone teases you about how your name is spelled?"
We talked more about it and decided that he should say "My mommy wanted me to be named after the Javan in the bible and that is the way Javan is spelled in the bible... so that is how i spell my name"
......and I have officially been called out by a 4 year old.
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